Comments on: Be Patient and Proactive

By: Jennifer Johnston

Jennifer Johnston — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 21:47:52 +0000

I also had that journey, trying 3 years for two babies and then ended up with one surprise baby girl and an adoption as well. It’s all part of the refiner’s fire. We’ve been hopping around in rentals for 12 years and I’m tired of it. Hopefully we’ll be able to buy someday.

By: DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad.com

DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad.com — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 04:52:15 +0000

Working on being patient– age is helping, but usually proactive.

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By: Lynnae

Lynnae — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 23:35:44 +0000

@Diana – You’re right! Totally forgot that we actually owned that one. It felt more like a rental, since we rented the lot.

I have mixed feelings about that house. On the one hand, the total payment was less than a rental in the area, so it was good in that we could afford for me to stay home with our daughter. On the other hand, trailers on rented lots are tough to get rid of, so when we had to move, it was hard to sell.

We wanted to buy when we first moved where we are now, but we waited. And that was a good decision. So I guess we were patient in buying a house the first time around, in that we bought what we could afford, rather than what we would have preferred. And this time around we waited in rentals for 7 years before we could afford to buy what we liked.

By: UmpquaLouie

UmpquaLouie — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 20:28:35 +0000

I would have to say that I am SOMEWHAT patient when it comes to monetary issues. However, hardly patient when it comes to things like catching a connecting flight. I would definitely see if there were any other flights available or if I would be able to switch to a later flight.

I usually try and do my best to prepare myself for whatever may or may not be coming. I like to have options for different scenarios. I try and find out what a reasonable waiting time would be and see if there was anything I could do to make it shorter. Guess that’s not really being too patient though…

By: Diana

Diana — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 19:36:39 +0000

I am a little confused by your post. Didn’t you buy a trailer home within the first two years of marriage?

By: marci

marci — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 14:19:49 +0000

I am extremely patient… more out of necessity than any other reason.

But – like you I ‘Do my Homework’… and am ready for the opportunity when it arrives. I do a LOT of research…some of which I never get to use, (but I might at some time) and in the process I learn a lot that I can pass on to family if I can’t use the info myself.

It’s the old sayings, “Good things come to those who wait” coupled with
“God helps those who help themselves.” A mix of the two and the knowledge of when each saying applies to one’s life.

By: Christina

Christina — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:25:24 +0000

Thank-you for this post. I really needed it at this time in my life and it couldn’t have been more perfect!

By: Angelsong

Angelsong — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 13:18:01 +0000

I am not the most patient of people…sometimes, and I can point to my birth as an example. I was born three months early. I do not pray for patience, because my grandmother taught me that if I pray for patience, I will get it, but I will also get the tribulation to test it! So, I pray for Grace, which is freely given. I do try to be proactive as much as possible, and I have the ability to plan for “what if” that drives some of my family batty.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 12:09:18 +0000

I am not at all patient, but am working toward that and I pray about it. I am proactive. When I was about 25, several friends and coworkers were pregnant and I got a bad case of baby fever. My husband and I had been married 2 1/2 years at the time and had just bought our house. He wasn’t ready for kids. Then when I was 26, we found out my sister in law was expecting. We had just gotten back from a 3-year late honeymoon and laughed and said ‘glad it’s not us’. Of course the next month I got pregnant. Who had the last laugh? God did! I also have trouble going along with His timeline. I had a difficult childhood in many ways (financial hardship, abuse, neglect…) and always hoped that if I did things ‘right’ as an adult then my life would be everything I wanted when I wanted it, because having gone through what I did, I “deserved” it.

I have been praying for over a year that God would impress upon my husband to expand our family. Last month, my husband agreed. Last weekend we found out my sister in law is pregnant again. Again, it is difficult to hear that when I want it so much for myself. I felt the monster of Envy calling my name. I knew it was time to ramp up the prayers and talk to some friends who have been in similar situations wanting a child. Talking and praying even in just the past few days have helped me tremendously. So although I’m not yet pregnant, I’m being proactive in getting my body and home ready to handle the change when we are so blessed. We’re also very proactive with our finances, our only debt being our home, and we own 63.5% of our house having bought it just 5 years ago.

I asked of God, rather than having this emotion of Envy weighing on my heart and mind, to fill me with joy and anticipation in my own life for the good things to come. My husband and I have a wonderful daughter and look forward to having more babies, but it is difficult to come to terms with being on someone else’s schedule for blessings!