Comments on: What to do when you lose your income

By: Save You Marriage

Save You Marriage — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 22:05:21 +0000

When things really look bad is when you need all the best communication skills you can muster to keep your marriage together. It’s hard but not impossible. Look for opportunities wherever you can.

Good Luck!

By: Song About Healing Emotional Wounds – Non Judgment - Forgiveness | Voice In The Dark

Sat, 11 Dec 2010 03:58:01 +0000

[...] What to do when you lose your income – Well, it happened. I can’t say it was a surprise. Sales were down, and my husband was the new man on the totem pole. He lost his job yesterday. At this point we are officially without an income, and we have about one month’s worth of … [...]

By: Jan

Jan — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 08:02:36 +0000

Well, I just came across this one….now I am curious to see how you have made out. Are you still married? Has anything good come of your hardship?
We have had similar issues, but they have gone on for a long time. Actually, rather than to draw us closer together, it has worn us down to where everything is a struggle. My husband lost a very good job about 10 yrs. ago, at the age of 52. Because of his age, and job shortage in product management in the semi-conductor industry, he was unable to get a position after trying for more than a year, so he got his real estate license, and since that time, eight years ago, he battled cancer. I am a nurse, but that job took a lot out of me, and after the death of several friends and also my sister, I did retire last year from nursing. His real estate business ( he is a broker and owner of a real estate company), has taken a hard hit due to the economy. We have lost our entire retirement plan which we worked for many years to carry. That was of course because of the downturn in the economy. We have been forced to reconfigure our home to allow us to rent out a portion of it to help with the mortgage. This has affected our privacy.
We never go anywhere on holiday, not even local trips, unless it is to go to England to visit his family, because it is what he wants to do. Now my son is getting married and my husband is griping that we have been asked to pay for a rehearsal dinner for 20 people and also we had agreed to provide the music. Of course this is not his son, and so he can make me feel guilty.
So, in a nutshell, not having many bright spots on the horizon soon clouds the vision. I don’t know where this will end. I am 60, he is nearly 62, so we will draw social security as soon as we can. We have no health insurance at the moment, and this is not a good thing. I suppose I could go back to nursing, but the job was killing me and I am not willing to die for that.
We have already lost so much. We had to short sell our other 2 investment properties last year and that was to have been our retirement. We have also lost $200,000 in this current property and cannot afford to sell it as it would cost more money to move to a cheaper house. Luckily it is only ourselves that we have to bother about, as my children are grown. My ex husband has always provided for the kids, and that is one reason why I am upset with my current husband of 23 yrs, because over this long period of time, we have done very little for my kids. Their dad paid for college, he has money, so he can do these things. Money talks, it is unfortunate but true.
My husband was very poor as a child and for his entire life he has had to work for what he has. He feels everyone should have the same situation and I think this selfishness and tight fistedness has been one reason why we have had to continue to struggle. Whatever……..I am very depressed because I walk around feeling guilty about everything. I don’t question him when he sends his mom money or buys her little things, and now with my son getting married and my daughter engaged, he is being even more tight fisted. I hate it. I honestly feel that I would leave, if I could, but I cannot even do that. If I had to go back to work at the hospital, I am most certain that the stress of that would kill me.

By: Brooke

Brooke — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 14:41:03 +0000

Thank you so much for these inspirational words… My husband lost his job Friday, and I have been pestering him about getting unemployment, finding another job, “how did you let this happen?”, etc. I know now I need to let go and let God. Funny how those types of euphemisms hit home when the problem is personal. :) Thanks again!

By: How I Became a Freelance Homeschool Mom

How I Became a Freelance Homeschool Mom — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 02:05:31 +0000

[...] May 2007 I started a blog. The same month, my husband lost his job. That was a scary time. Two kids. No income. Fortunately we had an emergency fund. Fortunately my [...]

By: Jane

Jane — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 01:48:19 +0000

Hi there,

Oh boy can I relate to what you and your husband are going through. The very thing just happened to my husband. It is I think a shock for us because it has never taken place ever in his career.

I hope you get back on your feet, he finds an even better job quickly and all is well soon. I know in my heart that if I keep my faith in God my husband and our child will be able to get through this and so will you.

Best of Luck to you : )

By: gayle

gayle — Sun, 01 Feb 2009 20:50:26 +0000

I think millions of Ameicans are in the same position as you. I know my husband and I. We have cut out all the things you mentioned. gayle’s last blog post..February 1 State of the Goals Address

By: Angie

Angie — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 23:13:04 +0000

I’m sorry to hear about this. My husband just lost his job 2 weeks ago, and I thought I was handling it ok, but I’m so down. That was our only income.

By: Does Your Family Have An Emergency Plan? : Moolanomy

Does Your Family Have An Emergency Plan? : Moolanomy — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:33:41 +0000

[...] week Glblguy wrote about a Guideline Budget and Lynnae’s husband lost his job (sorry about that). After I read the two posts, I realized that a good budgeting plan could be a [...]

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 00:44:18 +0000

hi my name is Jen and I’m in the same possition as u I dont know how to comfort him I know we will be fine but he feels hopeless I wish I could make him feel better But were in God’s hands so I understand ur situation much love