Well, it happened. I can’t say it was a surprise. Sales were down, and my husband was the new man on the totem pole. He lost his job yesterday. At this point we are officially without an income, and we have about one month’s worth of expenses left in our emergency fund before we have to break open our retirement savings.
So how are we handling this? There are several things we’re doing to make our way through this financial mess. First, we realize that we are on the same team. It won’t do any good for me to blame my husband. And it’s not any good if he blames himself. The situation is what it is, and we need to work together if we hope to get through this without hurting our marriage. We’re off to a good start. 
Second, we need to prioritize our expenses and cut back on whatever we can. Our rent has to be paid. We need food. We need clothes. We need gas and electricity. Anything beyond that is optional. The next tier of priorities includes our cars, car insurance, life insurance, an internet connection, and a phone. These things aren’t necessary for living, but they’re extremely useful in getting around and finding a job. Finally come the completely optional expenses: satellite TV, extra-curricular activities, eating out, our Blockbuster Online membership. If we find that the prospects don’t look good for my husband getting a job soon, these last things will be the first that are slashed from our budget.
We also need to network. Most jobs are found through people you know, so it’s important for my husband to get himself out there and talk to people about getting a job. This should be easy for him, as he’s a pretty social guy, and he likes talking to people. He’s also got his resume up at Monster.com and Career Builder. Meanwhile, we’re still working hard at getting his copywriting business off the ground. It’s never good to put all your eggs in one basket, so we’re diversifying our efforts to bring in an income.
Finally, we’re resting in the fact that God is in control. We may suffer. We may suffer a lot, actually. We may be stripped down to nothing but food, clothing, and shelter. But we’ll be OK. We’re in a scary place, but I know God has something in store for us. Hopefully we’ll find out what that is soon.
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October 18th, 2007 at 5:00 am
OH I’m so sorry! I know your husband will find a great job soon!
October 18th, 2007 at 5:14 am
I’m sorry to hear about this setback. Hopefully your husband will get a job he enjoys soon. I share your confidence that everything will turn out ok.
October 18th, 2007 at 5:48 am
Lynnae I am sending you and your husband good, positive vibes. I have a stomach ache just reading this. You sound calm and collected, that’s good.
Good luck and great attitude realizing you are both on the same side. Sometimes it seems that would eliminate most arguments out there and yet the two parties can’t see that fact. It sounds like you two are on the right path.
October 18th, 2007 at 6:06 am
I’m praying for you and your family … keep the faith!
October 18th, 2007 at 6:57 am
oh no…I’m so sorry Lynnae. I will pray for you and your family.
(have you been to the LLNOE forums? They might be able to give you ideas during this time)
October 18th, 2007 at 6:59 am
Thanks for the prayers and good thoughts, everyone!
@Erin - I have been to the LLNOE forums. I haven’t been there in a while, though. I’ll have to visit soon!
October 18th, 2007 at 7:03 am
I’m so sorry to hear this Lynnae. You and your family will be in my thoughts.
October 18th, 2007 at 7:37 am
I’m so sorry that happened! You’ll absolutely pull through this, I know it!
October 18th, 2007 at 7:50 am
Words just seem trite, I keep typing and erasing. I will prayer for you all. I KNOW you will come out of this stronger than you went in.
God bless you with joy, hope, faith, strength & much favor
Maria
October 18th, 2007 at 7:54 am
OH, I am so sorry for you and your family, but I know everything will work out for the better. I’ll be praying for your family.
October 18th, 2007 at 8:22 am
I am so very sorry to hear this.
Hang in there. I did have a thought regarding extracurricular activities. When I taught piano and students parents fell on hard times, I could usually work out some kind of trade, like babysitting my younger kids for a few hours each week in exchange for lessons, other things I’ve traded for have been housecleaning & manicures. I know my friend who owns a dance studio will trade dance classes to parents willing to help sew costumes & build sets for the recitals.
October 18th, 2007 at 8:24 am
I’m very sorry to hear about your husband’s job. Best wishes and prayers that a wonderful job comes along quickly.
October 18th, 2007 at 8:47 am
I’m sorry, that’s so scary. You seem to be handling this amazingly well - I would be a basket case. I hope things turn around for you sooner than later.
October 18th, 2007 at 9:05 am
Sorry to hear that he lost his job. That is tough. But it sounds like you both are going to get thru this and be stronger on the other side. Sticking together is great advice, thanks for sharing.
October 18th, 2007 at 9:45 am
Thanks for the thoughts and prayers. I really appreciate them.
@Chief Family Officer - that’s a great idea, and I will look into it. Fortunately we usually take a break from extra-curriculars after fall soccer is over, so we’re current with everything we’re doing now.
October 18th, 2007 at 10:04 am
May this only be a blip in the road that you barely remember. Prayers to your family for peace and a quick job search that leads to a wonderful job that your husband loves.
October 18th, 2007 at 11:48 am
I’m so sorry that your husband lost his job. Much luck to him in finding a new job.
I think it is so great how you already have a plan. I think it is good for all of us to honestly look at our expenses to decide which ones are necessary and which are completely expendable.
October 18th, 2007 at 12:17 pm
Praying really hard for you and Shannon *hugs*
October 18th, 2007 at 1:07 pm
I haven’t been able to figure out if your husband graduated from college, but if he did many have alumni placement departments that assist former graduates that have experience in their field in getting another job. Just an idea of another place to look. Also we are discovering that most companies only look at people who submit applications through their company website.
Hope some of that was helpful for you. Best wishes.
October 18th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
Thanks everyone.
@Marie - yes my husband did graduate from college. The local college, actually. And I do believe they have an alumni placement department. I’ll have him check it out. Thanks!
October 18th, 2007 at 3:16 pm
Even though you’ve been given a bum deal, you ought to be applauded for your positive and constructive attitude throughout this so far. You’re right - you’ll save your marriage, and this will ultimately be a blip on the screen if you play your cards right, trust in the universe, and stay calm.
Continue to analyze every dollar that goes out the door and the necessity for that expense.
As for the life insurance, my recommendation is not to cancel it (as long as it is term insurance. If it is whole life or universal life, consider a premium holiday or reduction in required premiums). All you need is for something to happen to hubby’s or your health, and then when you try to re-apply when you’re back up on your feet you might not be accepted, or would be highly rated.
Good luck, many people are rooting for you!
October 18th, 2007 at 4:11 pm
I appreciate your positive attitude. Never let that go. We too have been without my husband’s income for the last four months. We never changed at lifestyle even in the absence of that income.
Keep the faith, and keep those priorities in order.
October 18th, 2007 at 4:11 pm
I appreciate your positive attitude. Never let that go. We too have been without my husband’s income for the last four months. We never changed at lifestyle even in the absence of that income.
Keep the faith, and keep those priorities in order.
October 18th, 2007 at 4:21 pm
So sorry to hear about your husbands job loss. I wish you the best of luck. Keep your head up!
October 18th, 2007 at 5:19 pm
Sounds like you’ve got your situation straight at least. You’re in a much better position to weather the storm than many people are. *virtual hugs*
God bless, and may this become an exciting new opportunity for him!
October 18th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
I wish you the best of luck, Lynnae. I hope he gets a job that he will truly enjoy. In the meantime, can he collect unemployment?
October 18th, 2007 at 6:21 pm
Thanks.
@Nora - we do have term life insurance, and the only way we’d cancel it is if the choice was between the term life insurance and living on the street.
@Hilda - My husband should be able to collect unemployment. He filed today, so that will help our emergency fund stretch a little bit further.
October 18th, 2007 at 6:37 pm
Lynnae, my heart and prayers are with you and your family.
You and your dh seem to have a good plan, that will give you a bit of time until he scores that new job which will be even better then the ones he had before
October 18th, 2007 at 7:57 pm
Hey Lynnae, I did a search and there are A LOT of companies hiring for ad people and such in Madison WI
I’m praying for you guys and I KNOW God’s got plans for you…and they are for GOOD and not destruction…
October 19th, 2007 at 9:19 am
I’m so sorry, Lynnae. I hope it all works out for your family very soon. I’m sure it will.
Make sure to continue to encourage your husband during this time. Being laid off can be hard and he might need that extra boost of confidence to help him find that next job. Good luck to both of you!
October 19th, 2007 at 1:03 pm
embrace frugal living. by that I mean find cheap or free alternatives to things that used to cost you money. Read newspapers at the library rather than buying them. This way you won’t feel as deprived. Positive is once your back to work the new habits will stay and you continue to live well below your means.
good luck
October 19th, 2007 at 7:08 pm
Good attitude. It looks like it is the trial of faith time, Do the right thing and things will work out.
October 19th, 2007 at 10:55 pm
So sorry to hear about this Lynnae. You were smart to be expecting it! Seems like the readers have some great ideas and you are right, it is in His hands and all you can do is wait to see where the ride ends up! Maybe that is another reason why you rent? Maybe you do have to think about going a little furthur out somewhere to get him a good job instead of beating a dead market? Just a thought.
October 20th, 2007 at 5:44 am
I’ve been there. My husband was unemployed for 13 months. We did not think it would last that long when the company failed. After 6 months my faith was tested. We did not want to relocate. My husband became very creative after our savings and investments(no penalty attached) were gone. I would pay the bills that I could, pray about it and let it go, because worrying about it wasn’t going to change anything. Ebay was very good for us. My husband knows medical equipment and he found a supplier who had a warehouse of equipment that wasn’t selling. Thus my husband was able to keep us afloat. So hang in there. I pray that his unemployment won’t be as long as my husbands. Communicate with one another because it will put stress on your marriage and never blame him if the unemployment lasts longer than you expect. My husband secured a job with the government June 2007.
October 20th, 2007 at 4:23 pm
Oh that stinks!
Ugh. You sound so mellow. I would be all crazy. Hats off to you.
Many hugs and wishes for the perfect opportunity to present itself. I am pulling for you.
October 21st, 2007 at 8:15 pm
Yup, God is in control and I am sure He will provide for you guys!!!
If your hubby is looking on the web then Simplyhired.com and indeed.com are great job aggregator search sites that searches a lot of job boards and they could save a lot of time. I’ve also found a lot of great people and companies on craigslist.org. I’m not sure if craigslist is big in your area but it’s a good place to find connections. Anyway, blog on sister!
October 21st, 2007 at 11:42 pm
Hi Lynnae, sorry to hear about your husbands job loss, I have been through this myself so I am sending good thoughts your way:)
October 22nd, 2007 at 6:38 am
Thanks, everyone.
@the baglady - I will definitely look into those sites. Thanks! I’ve been keeping an eye on our craigslist, though it doesn’t seem to be big for employment opportunities in our area. Still, it never hurts to look.
October 22nd, 2007 at 8:29 pm
I am so sorry you are going through such tough times right now. You are being a very good wife to support your husband like this. Yes, most definitely you guys are a team. Support him well and I am sure he will make you proud by trying his hardest to provide for the family financially.
God bless
-Raymond
October 22nd, 2007 at 9:47 pm
I am so sorry to hear of your job loss and income situation. I pray that your job situation gets better before you start to dig into savings.
Our economy is slowly sinking, and I fear that all of us will be impacted before long.
Best of luck…
January 1st, 2008 at 11:06 pm
Hi,
My husband has lost his job, about a year ago. We are both Christians and are trusting God to provide. Sometimes we look at the mountain which gets bigger than our God. My husband is 62 and has held an executive position for the last 30 years. I have been a stay at home mom. We sold everything, Praise God we were able to sell out house. But not at any profit we only had a few months to sell it, and it was truly a blessing from the Lord. We are renting now, and have five months to decide which direction to go. I know all things work together for good to them that love the Lord and are called according to his purpose. Lord Bless you. I will believe your blessing from the Lord.
July 8th, 2008 at 6:44 pm
One thing I have learned through the years is that everything works itself out. Everything. That has been my experience and I have had some dismal and seemingly down right hopeless times in my life. Best of luck. ~Larry
July 31st, 2008 at 5:44 pm
hi my name is Jen and I’m in the same possition as u I dont know how to comfort him I know we will be fine but he feels hopeless I wish I could make him feel better But were in God’s hands so I understand ur situation much love
January 5th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
I’m sorry to hear about this. My husband just lost his job 2 weeks ago, and I thought I was handling it ok, but I’m so down. That was our only income.
February 1st, 2009 at 12:50 pm
I think millions of Ameicans are in the same position as you. I know my husband and I. We have cut out all the things you mentioned.
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